DO NOT HARM OTHERS
Remember the saying in the Bible “In everything, do to others what you would have them do to you” – Think about that for a moment. It’s doesn’t matter if you are a Christian or not. The saying applies in all cases. So, in your situation, is there someone you are consciously hurting? Hmm, now if you were in their shoes right now, would you enjoy the treatment you are serving them? Is there someone you are destroying with your actions?
To be honest, with whatever that’s going on around the world, it’s easy to forget or see who is still doing the good. I understand that it might be human nature to feel selfish because you want something good to happen to you. But does that mean that you must mistreat the other for your goal to be accomplished?
For example. Bullies. For those kinds of people, I think that to bully someone else, you must have deeper issues within you. Issues that are not resolved or healed yet. Issues passes from generations to generations. Those one enrooted deep down you can’t pinpoint where you started behaving that way. Hence the reason you take it on to others. Same for children. Although I must say that based on most studies, children who bully others usually have problems at home. So, to release their hurt, they take it onto their classmates, their neighbors, etc.
However, let’s focus on adults for a moment.
They say the environment you frequent influence the way you think. That’s 100% true. Why? Try and hang out more with people you have little in common with. You’ll soon discover that the person you knew before might not have been the whole you. Either positively or negatively. You’ll start adding little characters of those around you in your life. And if you are not careful, you might end up exactly like them.
If you hang around people who manipulate others, you’ll end up being one. If you hang out with people who abuse their powers, you’ll start abusing others using your power. If you hang around with gossipers, watch out, your mouth will start spitting lies before you know it. You’ll start developing behaviors and characters you see the most if you are not careful and detach yourself soon enough.
In most cases, I always wanted to know why would someone see another person cry and feel joy in their heart? What causes them to rejoice in the pain of others? Many reasons came to mind based on my observation: Greed – Revenge – Selfishness – Pleasure – Hurt – Pain – Self-gratification – Envy – Loneliness – Power – Corruption – etc.
A percentage of people who hurt others intentionally have been hurt before. Therefore, they don’t feel remorse for their actions. In fact, hurting others fulfils their inner hole for a short period of time. To that I say to them. It’s best to seek counselling, therapy or other form of psychological treatment. It’s not good to hurt yourself either. So, in order to save you and others around you, find a therapist and work through it.
Another percentage of people mistreat others for their own happiness. Seeing another person begging for mercy feeds their sense of pride for a moment. Feeling dominant and powerful boots their ego. But where did that start? I want to know? Is it influence from friends? Generational behavior? Psychological disorder? To those, I say the same thing. Go seat down with a counsellor or therapist and work through it. Think for a moment. If you wake up tomorrow and you find yourself in the other person’s shoes. What would happen?
My mother has called some people “animals” because of what she saw them do to others. Before she’d call those people animals because she was angry. But over time, I saw that even if she has calmed down, those people are still “animals” in her eyes. It’s unfortunate to hear. Seeing someone treat another person like they don’t matter. Like they have zero value. And still walk around laughing and enjoying their lives. She hated the sight of them, and she still does. Guess what? I started seeing them as animals too. People who are just predators. You approach them or dare to be near them. You are going to be hurt. So, stay away from them. Even if they are your closest friends, family. Find a way to keep a distance.
In some situations, it’s unavoidable to be mistreated. It can be the job you have, the man you married, the child of yours, the family member, the country you live in, etc. But don’t grow to be bitter towards those people. Find a way to heal and move forward. If you pray, ask God to be the judge of their actions. Ask him to help you stand up and give you the strength to keep going.
